@When Love Feels Wrong: Reading the Signs and Finding the Way Out

@When Love Feels Wrong: Reading the Signs and Finding the Way Out


Love is one of life’s most captivating gifts — a melody that fills the soul and gives meaning to our emotions. Yet, not every song that begins in harmony ends in rhythm. Sometimes, what begins as a dream slowly becomes a drain; the laughter fades, the excitement thins, and what once felt like home starts to feel like a cage. You find yourself trying to hold together what your peace keeps trying to escape from. This is what it means to be with the wrong person — when your heart stays where your spirit is no longer settled.


Being with the wrong person does not always mean they are bad; it simply means the connection no longer aligns with your peace, values, or growth. You sense it when conversations feel more like contests than communion, when silence becomes safer than expression, when you begin to measure your words to avoid another argument. Love should not choke your joy or silence your voice. True love is not afraid of your truth — it celebrates it.


One of the earliest signs of wrong love is restlessness. Your spirit becomes uneasy; your smiles become rehearsed. You start apologizing for simply being yourself. Little by little, you shrink — your laughter grows quieter, your confidence thinner. The person who should inspire your wings now keeps them folded. In your quiet moments, you begin to realize that you are not growing together, you are simply enduring together. And endurance without joy is not commitment; it is emotional captivity.


Another signal is the constant clash of values. When integrity, faith, or life goals continually collide, it’s not chemistry you lack — it’s compatibility. You cannot walk far with someone who is walking in a different direction. The wrong relationship drains you of energy meant for your becoming. It weakens the light you carry and makes you question the very things that once defined you. Love was never designed to cost you your peace; it was meant to multiply it.


At times, you know deep within that the connection is wrong, yet you keep hoping they will change, that one day things will become what they used to be. Love cannot be sustained by hope alone. People change when they choose to, not when you beg them to. And staying in a relationship built on potential rather than reality is like watering a dead plant — it will never blossom, no matter how much you try.


The way out begins with honesty. Stop defending what is clearly destroying your peace. Face the truth with grace and courage. It may hurt to walk away, but it hurts far deeper to stay chained in emotional confusion. Seek wise counsel — not from friends who share your pain, but from those who can share perspective. Rediscover who you were before love became a struggle. You are more than a partner; you are a person with dreams, with value, with destiny. Reconnect with your goals, your faith, and your inner strength.


And when you finally choose to let go, do so without bitterness. Forgive them, forgive yourself, and move on with peace. The wrong relationship was not a wasted story; it was a chapter of discovery. It taught you discernment, maturity, and the sacred truth that peace is the highest proof of love. Do not carry resentment — carry wisdom.


In the end, the right love will never require you to lose yourself to keep it. When love feels wrong, listen to your soul; it often knows what your heart is afraid to admit. For peace is not the absence of love — it is the evidence of the right one.


Yours in fulfilment,


*@Otunba Femi Abiola, CMIE, MCE*

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